This might sound strange, but it is the end of the year for me! I teach second grade and this is the last week of school. While I will miss the kiddos, I am SO looking forward to staying home with Cub. This has brought up the whole Moms Who Work or Moms Who Stay Home thing....
I am blessed to have a career that I LOVE and that gives me amazing vacation time plus when Cub is in school, he will come with me. My sister stays at home with her daughter and I had recently given her A LOT of grief for "complaining" about being home. I would love to stay home!! But our kids are very different...and so are our situations. My son is--for the most part--super low maintenance. My niece is not...I call her my Princess for a reason! I know my sister loves her daughter but I also know she wouldn't mind a break. Me, I don't necessarily want one from Cub.
I am proud of myself for going to college, for getting into teaching. I have met so many kids who touched my life--I have met so many families I am still close with today. I am personally fulfilled doing what I do. But it ain't all roses, trust me!! I love what I do. I love my son more. It's a constant struggle.
There shouldn't be judgement on either side, however there is and we are human. We can't help it! I don't like "Working Mom" or "Stay at Home Mom" because guess what--we are all moms!! I am a mama who works. The job doesn't define me. The fact I have a career doesn't define what kind of mother I am. Plus, FYI people, I have to do everything moms who stay home d--
I have had someone at work tell me recently "just rearrange our priorities and stay home." In a perfect world, maybe. But I was pretty insulted. The insinuation was that I should do one or the other. Why not both? Why CAN'T I work AND be a mama and do BOTH well?
Do you stay home? Do you work? What are the misconceptions and struggles you face?
<3 Jen
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I stay at home with my two little ones. LJ is 4 while BG is 16 months. Yes, they can be a handful, but I love my job of mommy and would not change it for the world. One struggle I have faced is the comments from people, including MY MOM! Kids are frustrating sometimes. It happens. I have actually had my mom tell me that I should go back to work in order to get time away from my kids. Not just once, but twice. She has said it when I just want to vent a little about a particularly bad bad or something. Now, I feel that I can't go to her to vent without hearing that I should go back to work.
ReplyDeleteI think moms can totally do work and mommy well together. I think it is great to be a working mommy if you can. You can totally do both and well.